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REBROADCAST: Narcissistic High Conflict People

REBROADCAST

When an HCP is a Narcissist…

Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high conflict person (HCP) has one of five common personality disorders – borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic – they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake.
Most everyone has been around a narcissist, but not everyone understands how to handle a narcissistic HCP. Bill and Megan do a deep dive into this personality type, exploring:

  • Their fear-based need to be superior and makes others feel inferior
  • The differences between vulnerable, narcissistic and malignant types
  • Why they see themselves as a hero and protector while those around them experience them as bullies
  • How to spot them
  • Statistics on Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic HCPs in the U.S

Understanding and dealing with Narcissistic HCPs come in layers, and understanding the why they behave that way is the first step.

  • If you’ve been the Target of Blame for a narcissistic HCP, you know the devastating impact it can have. It’s easy to get emotionally hooked by their aggressive behaviors and respond with aggression or avoidance, which emboldens them. Instead, learning the necessary skills –that don’t always feel natural – is the ticket to managing interactions with them. The first step is to understand their behavior patterns, starting now.

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Links & Other Notes

  • 00:00 – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
  • 01:45 – Last Time…
  • 02:10 – HCP Refresher
  • 05:05 – The Narcissistic HCP
  • 07:38 – Statistics
  • 08:53 – Dealing With an Narcissistic HCP
  • 09:57 – Sexual Abuse
  • 10:21 – Genetic Component?
  • 12:47 – Empathy Factor
  • 14:57 – How They See Themselves
  • 17:44 – Types of Narcissists
  • 23:55 – Lack of Self-Awareness
  • 26:06 – Treatment
  • 28:59 – Dealing With a Narcissistic HCP in Your Life
  • 32:26 – Getting Support
  • 33:39 – Gender Breakdown
  • 35:17 – Don’t Tell Them They’re an HCP
  • 36:03 – Narcissists vs. Narcissistic HCPs
  • 36:49 – Are HCPs bad people?
  • 39:00 – Raising Healthy Kids
  • 42:05 – Reminders & Coming Next Week: Antisocial HCPs

Further Listening

Each week, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter will be exploring the five types of people who can ruin your life — people with high conflict personalities — and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Bill Eddy is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is viewed globally as the leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities.

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Megan Hunter, MBA

Megan Hunter is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Executive Officer. Within her role at HCI, she also serves as a leading expert in high conflict personalities in all settings, focusing primarily on the workplace, customer service, government/public service, ombuds, and religious organizations. Her degrees in business and economics combined with her years of experience in the legal arena are a valuable blend for many conflict settings.

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Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Bill Eddy is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is viewed globally as the leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities.

Megan Zoom

Megan Hunter, MBA

Megan Hunter is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Executive Officer. Within her role at HCI, she also serves as a leading expert in high conflict personalities in all settings, focusing primarily on the workplace, customer service, government/public service, ombuds, and religious organizations. Her degrees in business and economics combined with her years of experience in the legal arena are a valuable blend for many conflict settings.