Repair Without Over-Explaining
Over-apologizing doesn’t just wear you down — it can turn your guilt into someone else’s emotional labor. This week, Nikki and Pete break down the difference between an apology and a repair, and share a framework for making things right without losing yourself in the process.
Why Being “Low-Maintenance” Is Costly
“You’re so easy. You’re low maintenance.” It sounds like a compliment — but for ADHDers, it’s often a signal that you’ve been hiding your needs so well that nobody knows you have them. Pete and Nikki unpack why striving to be low maintenance is one of the most costly masking strategies in the ADHD playbook.
Motivation Comes From Emotion, Not Discipline with James Ochoa
You’ve tried connecting tasks to meaning and designing your environment—but what happens when you’re still stuck? James Ochoa helps us understand what’s really happening beneath the surface when motivation strategies aren’t enough.
Emotional Regulation When You’re Already Depleted
When your emotional tank is empty, your ADHD brain doesn’t need a five-step plan—it needs a reset. Join us as we explore why depletion makes emotions harder to manage and share sensory-based strategies that actually work when you can’t regulate yet.
You’re Not Behind. You’re Exhausted.
Pete and Nikki kick off the new season by naming the thing nobody wants to put on a vision board: the post-holiday crash.
Quiz Show • Season 31 Finale
For our Season 31 finale, DiscordMom Melissa takes over hosting duties and puts us through a no-stakes quiz show filled with nostalgia, chaos, and confessions we absolutely can’t take back. It’s the most fun way possible to close out the season—and maybe the most honest we’ve ever been on-mic.
Find Your Own Wind: Fuel Your Motivation through Emotion
Motivation doesn’t start with logic — it starts with emotion, and ADHD brains need a different kind of spark to get moving. In this episode, Nikki and Pete explore how emotional planning can help you finally start the tasks you’ve been avoiding.
Aging, ADHD, and Letting Go with Jami Shapiro
ADHD doesn’t disappear with age, but it often goes undiagnosed in older generations—showing up as clutter, chaos, and family frustration. Jami Shapiro helps us understand how to support neurodivergent brains through downsizing, retirement, and major life changes.
Acceptance, Avoidance, and the Tolerations Between Them
We’re tackling the sneaky little energy drains that pile up in every ADHD household — the tolerations we learn to live with. Pete and Nikki revisit an old favorite topic with new insights, exploring how to spot them, fix them, or finally let them go.
The Introvert’s Guide to Finding Your People with Ky Wescott
Can you be introverted and thrive in a world that won’t stop buzzing? The Vibe With Ky’s Kyrus Keenan Westcott joins us to talk about late ADHD diagnosis, healthy boundaries, and finding joy in your quiet power.