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The Sociopath: Antisocial High Conflict People

The Antisocial Personality Disorder

Have you met this person? Someone who:

  • tries to dominate you
  • disruptive/volatile
  • disregard for laws/social rules
  • frequently lie and mislead you
  • manipulates
  • confuses you
  • lacks remorse/empathy/respect for your rights

If so, you might have been around someone with an Antisocial personality. This isn’t the person who stands in the corner during parties –which is often top of mind with the term antisocial. It’s actually Antisocial Personality Disorder (used interchangeably with sociopath). You know… it’s the guy (or gal) who thinks they’re special. He thinks he can park his car anywhere and not be towed. She embezzles from the company or fakes cancer to raise money. He blows up if he does not get the superior treatment he apparently deserves. She has an opinion about everything, hijacks conversations, poo-poos your thoughts and emotions and will lie though her teeth even when she knows she can get caught. Most of all – he wants something from you!

If you think you’ve never been around someone like this, you probably have been… but weren’t aware of what you were dealing with. Those who are married to them or have them as bosses know the confusion they cause and likely have experienced the terror in the pit of your stomach. But, surprise, you were most likely charmed in the beginning. Bill and Megan do a deep dive into the antisocial personality type, exploring:

  • their fear-based need to dominate and manipulate others
  • why they present with charm at first but are willing to hurt others for personal gain
  • why they disregard the rules and laws of society, lack remorse, and have a reckless disregard for risk and danger
  • how to spot them
  • statistics on Antisocial Personality Disorder and Antisocial HCPs in the U.S

Understanding and dealing with Antisocial HCPs come in layers, and understanding the why they behave that way is the first step.

If you’ve been the Target of Blame for an Antisocial HCP, you know the terror and helplessness they exact and the toll they take. Because they’re highly manipulative and charming, it’s easy to get conned by them. Instead, learning what to watch for is imperative. And if it’s too late and you’re already involved with one, it’s a good idea to get help from an expert. The first step is to understand their behavior patterns, starting now.

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Links & Other Notes

Books:

BIFF at Work

5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities

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You can also find these show notes on our website as well.

  • 00:00 – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
  • 01:49 – The Anti-Social Personality
  • 02:49 – What Is the Anti-Social Personality?
  • 06:54 – Why Do They Rise to the Top?
  • 09:19 – Anti-Socials in Divorce
  • 14:18 – How They Fool You – An Example
  • 23:56 – Lying
  • 28:30 – Back to Megan’s Example
  • 30:36 – Why Do They End Up This Way?
  • 33:16 – Backing Out of a Situation Wtih an Anti-Social
  • 35:51 – When They’re in Your Life
  • 37:17 – Avoiding When Dating
  • 38:38 – Reminders & Coming Next Week: Histrionic People

Further Listening

Each week, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter will be exploring the five types of people who can ruin your life — people with high conflict personalities — and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.

Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Bill Eddy is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is viewed globally as the leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities.

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Megan Hunter, MBA

Megan Hunter is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Executive Officer. Within her role at HCI, she also serves as a leading expert in high conflict personalities in all settings, focusing primarily on the workplace, customer service, government/public service, ombuds, and religious organizations. Her degrees in business and economics combined with her years of experience in the legal arena are a valuable blend for many conflict settings.

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Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.

Bill Eddy is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is viewed globally as the leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities.

Megan Zoom

Megan Hunter, MBA

Megan Hunter is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Executive Officer. Within her role at HCI, she also serves as a leading expert in high conflict personalities in all settings, focusing primarily on the workplace, customer service, government/public service, ombuds, and religious organizations. Her degrees in business and economics combined with her years of experience in the legal arena are a valuable blend for many conflict settings.