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Can People with High Conflict Personalities Change?
As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impossible. Our minds tell us that they’re doing it on purpose or at least partially so; and that they can change if they’d just choose that route. But is that a reality? If we start with the premise that people with high conflict personalities don’t even know they have such a thing, why would change?
In this episode, Bill and Megan talk about:
- whether people with high conflict personalities know they’re such
- whether people with high conflict personalities can change
- if change is possible:
- what is the likelihood of change
- what it takes to help them change, such as therapy, programs, those around them
- how to approach someone with a high conflict personality HCP about their need for change and whether you should ever do that
NOTE: We are not diagnosing or labeling anyone and neither should anyone listening to this podcast. Instead, we focus on what to do to help.
Links & Other Notes
BOOKS
- 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner
- The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for Families
ARTICLES
Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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You can also find these show notes at our site as well.
Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
- (01:08) – Does an HCP recognize they need to change?
- (04:34) – Can an HCP change?
- (06:36) – Borderline Personality Type
- (07:56) – Narcissistic Personality Type
- (09:37) – Histrionic Personality Type
- (10:03) – Antisocial Personality Type
- (11:10) – Helping Borderline HCPs Change
- (12:16) – What It Takes to Help Them Change
- (15:02) – Developing Empathy
- (17:08) – Time and Repetition
- (19:08) – Adapting to the Change in HCPs
- (20:10) – Approaching an HCP About Changing
- (25:42) – Reminders & Coming Next Week: What if I’m high conflict?
Further Listening
Each week, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter will be exploring the five types of people who can ruin your life — people with high conflict personalities — and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Bill Eddy is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is viewed globally as the leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities.
Megan Hunter, MBA
Megan Hunter is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Executive Officer. Within her role at HCI, she also serves as a leading expert in high conflict personalities in all settings, focusing primarily on the workplace, customer service, government/public service, ombuds, and religious organizations. Her degrees in business and economics combined with her years of experience in the legal arena are a valuable blend for many conflict settings.
Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
Bill Eddy is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Innovation Officer. He pioneered the High Conflict Personality Theory (HCP) and is viewed globally as the leading expert on managing disputes involving people with high conflict personalities.
Megan Hunter, MBA
Megan Hunter is HCI’s co-founder and Chief Executive Officer. Within her role at HCI, she also serves as a leading expert in high conflict personalities in all settings, focusing primarily on the workplace, customer service, government/public service, ombuds, and religious organizations. Her degrees in business and economics combined with her years of experience in the legal arena are a valuable blend for many conflict settings.