Stopping yourself in a high-conflict situation doesn’t come naturally for most. We get frustrated when things escalate quickly and wonder why we took the bait once again. Of course, the brain is involved so it comes down to unconscious reactions, but can they be overcome? Can we get emotionally unhooked?
In this episode, Bill and Megan discuss:
- the dilemmas that come from people with high conflict personalities, instead of solutions
- why we get hooked by their dilemmas — the brain interactions
- how to override our defaults when they happen on the spot
- why we need to stop and use a Dilemmas & Decisions list before diving in with our natural defaults when we have time to think
- Doing Instead of Stewing
Links & Other Notes
- BOOKS
- It’s All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything (see Chapter 9: Analyze Your Realistic Options)
- COURSE
- ARTICLES
Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
- (00:36) – Why Do We Keep Reacting?
- (01:18) – Overriding Defaults
- (05:51) – Building the Neuron Connections
- (09:22) – Dilemma and Decision List
- (20:23) – Reminders & Coming Next Week: Confirmation Bias
