Dilemmas & Decisions: Why It’s So Hard to Stop Yourself from Over-reacting in High-Conflict Situations
Stopping yourself in a high-conflict situation doesn’t come naturally for most. We get frustrated when things escalate quickly and wonder why we took the bait once again. Of course, the brain is involved so it comes down to unconscious reactions, but can they be overcome? Can we get emotionally unhooked?
In this episode, Bill and Megan discuss:
- the dilemmas that come from people with high conflict personalities, instead of solutions
- why we get hooked by their dilemmas — the brain interactions
- how to override our defaults when they happen on the spot
- why we need to stop and use a Dilemmas & Decisions list before diving in with our natural defaults when we have time to think
- Doing Instead of Stewing
Links & Other Notes
- It’s All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything (see Chapter 9: Analyze Your Realistic Options)
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
Each week, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter will be exploring the five types of people who can ruin your life — people with high conflict personalities — and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.