Can People with High Conflict Personalities Change?

As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impossible. Our minds tell us that they’re doing it on purpose or at least partially so; and that they can change if they’d just choose that route. But is that a reality? If we start with the premise that people with high conflict personalities don’t even know they have such a thing, why would change?

In this episode, Bill and Megan talk about:

• whether people with high conflict personalities know they’re such
• whether people with high conflict personalities can change
• if change is possible:
  • what is the likelihood of change
  • what it takes to help them change, such as therapy, programs, those around them
• how to approach someone with a high conflict personality HCP about their need for change and whether you should ever do that

NOTE: We are not diagnosing or labeling anyone and neither should anyone listening to this podcast. Instead, we focus on what to do to help.

Links & Other Notes

BOOKS

• 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
• The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness Planner
• The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for Families

ARTICLES

• Fire or Keep High Conflict Employees

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

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You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
• (01:08) – Does an HCP recognize they need to change?
• (04:34) – Can an HCP change?
• (06:36) – Borderline Personality Type
• (07:56) – Narcissistic Personality Type
• (09:37) – Histrionic Personality Type
• (10:03) – Antisocial Personality Type
• (11:10) – Helping Borderline HCPs Change
• (12:16) – What It Takes to Help Them Change
• (15:02) – Developing Empathy
• (17:08) – Time and Repetition
• (19:08) – Adapting to the Change in HCPs
• (20:10) – Approaching an HCP About Changing
• (25:42) – Reminders & Coming Next Week: What if I’m high conflict?