One of the hardest decisions when divorcing a high-conflict spouse is how and when to tell that person that you want a divorce. How will the person react? Will I be in danger? Will my life become a worse hell?
In this episode, Megan and Bill discuss this extremely relevant and important topic, starting with a question from a listener. They will discuss:
- What should you do if your partner doesn’t know yet that you want a divorce?
- How should you tell that person?
- How should you prepare?
- What should you say? Where should you say it?
- Should you have someone with me?
- Is it okay to stay at home after delivering the news?
- What to be aware of going forward.
- Should the kids be told in advance? Or when do I tell them?
- Should the kid’s school be notified?
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- ON DEMAND COURSES & COACHING
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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
- (01:17) – Telling an HCP You Want a Divorce
- (03:02) – Start With Preparing
- (07:32) – So Many Things to Think About
- (10:06) – What You’ll Say and Where
- (16:29) – Should I Have Someone With Me?
- (18:02) – Should I Go Home Afterward?
- (19:22) – Going Forward
- (21:56) – When to Tell the Children
- (25:11) – Telling the School
- (26:44) – Wrapping Up
- (28:26) – Reminders & Coming Next Week: Family Law in Israel with Guest Michal Fein
