Narcissistic Co-Parents, Borderline Spouses, and Intimidating Behaviors

In this episode Megan and Bill answer listener questions:

• “I’m going through a high conflict custody case with someone who it would appear has some form of Narcissistic High Conflict Personality. I was wondering if you could point me in a useful direction regarding how to help my toddler through this really terrible custody battle and beyond.”
• “I really struggle to know how to handle situations where a decision needs to be made quickly and we [the HCP and I] have opposite approaches in mind. For instance, a decision about whether to hold someone else to account (who I don’t believe really did anything wrong). I’d love wisdom on how to manage intimidating behavior (when they are intimidating you into following their instructions). Would you ever recommend quietly explaining the problem to someone else who is caught up in the situation?”
• “Can someone develop Borderline Personality Disorder traits from living with someone with BPD (or BPD traits)? And how do I find a good counselor for myself that can help me recover from living with her?”

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • The Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for Families: 52 Weeks of Hope, Inspiration, and Mindful Ideas for Greater Peace and Happiness
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
  • High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide
  • The Healthy Parent’s ABC’s: Healthy Parenting Made Clear and Easy-to-Read by Benjamin D. Garber, PhD
• COURSE
  • New Ways for Families Online Class (and coaching): for High Conflict Divorce and Custody Disputes
  • https://www.conflictplaybook.com/NWFF
• AUDIO SERIES
  • High Conflict Separation & Divorce Basics
• Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
• (01:20) – Listener Questions
• (01:57) – Handling a Toddler with a Narcissistic Parent
• (07:58) – Managing Intimidating Behavior
• (13:30) – Is There Ever a Time to Explain the Truth?
• (16:20) – Can You Develop BPD Traits From Another?
• (23:55) – Reminders & Coming Next Week: More Listener Questions!