In this episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright discuss changing your mind and the challenges it presents for those with ADHD. Nikki shares a personal experience from her recent declutter challenge, during which she felt the urge to switch gears and focus on a different project–organizing and hanging photo frames. This shift in focus prompted a discussion about the difficulties of changing course and the feelings of failure that often accompany such decisions for individuals with ADHD.
Nikki and Pete explore the concept of black-and-white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing or absolute thinking, and how it can lead to self-judgment and self-loathing when faced with the opportunity to change one’s mind. They discuss various cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization, mental filters, and emotional reasoning, which can contribute to these negative thought patterns.
They discuss the sunk cost fallacy, the tendency to continue doing something because of the time and effort invested, even if it’s no longer beneficial. Nikki shares a relatable example involving an unfinished 2,000-piece puzzle and an upcoming furniture delivery, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and reframing the concept of “finishing” in a more ADHD-friendly way.
Throughout the episode, Nikki and Pete emphasize the significance of self-awareness, flexibility, and healthy self-talk when navigating the challenges of changing one’s mind. If you’re stuck, it might be time to redefine goals, be kind, and understand that it’s okay to adjust course when necessary.
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