The Friendship Issue: We just met. I miss you already.

Making friends as an adult is hard. Like, trying-to-fix-a-leaky-faucet-with-a-pear hard. This week, Pete and Tommy dive into the emotional absurdity of adult relationships—why it’s so difficult to make new friends when you’re older, and why you still feel bad about that one friend you accidentally ghosted in during the Regan presidency.

Tommy explores the paradox of adult friendship logistics (spoiler: it involves trivia nights and at least one emotional support podcast), while Pete unpacks the slow, awkward fade of the friendships we didn’t mean to lose but also didn’t exactly fight to keep. Plus: a deeply educational detour through ancient Roman memory-erasure rituals and the definitive game show you didn’t know your dating app history prepared you for—What’s App’nin?

So whether you’re out there desperately trying to make a new friend or quietly mourning the group text that went dark, this one’s for you. You’re not alone. Unless you are. In which case… welcome.

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Through Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright strive to help listeners with support, life management strategies, and time and technology tips, dedicated to anyone looking to take control of their lives in the face ADHD.

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