People with high conflict personalities have strong unconscious fears that are easily triggered: abandonment; humiliation, being dominated; ignored; and other major losses. When triggered, this is a greater concern with high conflict people than with the average person.
In this episode, Bill and Megan discuss:
- the types of losses that can trigger high risk:
- divorce
- new relationship partner
- job termination
- eviction
- neighbor dispute
- other losses
- whether these are predictable
- how to be aware
- how to protect yourself and handle:
- divorce situations when delivering bad news or other big changes
- workplace situations, especially when disciplining or terminating someone’s employment
- neighborhood/homeowner’s or condo association meetings
Links & Other Notes
- BOOKS
- Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
- BIFF at Work: Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication
- : Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication
- Calming Upset People with EAR
Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
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You can also find these show notes at our site as well.
Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
- (00:00) – Welcome to It’s All Your Fault
- (00:34) – Times of High Risk
- (01:25) – Why a Greater Concern with HCPs?
- (05:17) – Unconscious Reactions
- (08:09) – HOA Example
- (14:05) – Settings
- (16:30) – Divorce Examples
- (23:46) – Times of High Risk
- (26:27) – In the Workplace
- (28:32) – Success Story
- (30:42) – Last Thoughts
- (31:55) – Reminders & Coming Next Week: Confirmation Bias
